I preface this article that the primary question posed in the article and video may be controversial or even offensive to some. How you react is based on your belief system. My role is to ask questions to help people consider other possibilities for their lives.
Recently in a caregiver group I am part of, a woman lost her spouse. Actually, this group seems to have a high rate of spouses dying in the last few weeks. Each day I see a new post that someone has crossed over. The woman who caught my attention in a big way asked this question. 'Who am I now without him?'
Being who I am, this question shocked me. Then it brought a lot of awareness.
As a woman, mother, wife, caregiver, friend, and business owner responsible for helping people find the answers and closure to their family questions, I understand why she asked this question. We have all done this - wrapped up our identity into one person, perhaps a spouse. Or our business. Our children, as a parent. It could be anything we've...
This week I changed the format and title of my energy videos from My Caregiver Journey to Choosing You First. The energy of what I hope to help people create is for anyone. While I may focus aspects of each week's video on caregiving, overall I will focus on creating shifts in your life.
Please watch the video and then be sure to go "meet" Michelle Hoffman who wrote an incredible book "Life Worth Living." I started reading it and spent two hours chatting with Michelle on the phone. She is phenomenal and inspiring. I highly recommend you get her book. We will be scheduling a webinar to talk about her book and both our experiences once I finish reading it so stay tuned.
My invitation to you this week: Ask yourself and be honest, about where you are giving too much to other people, places, and things, which cause you to deplete yourself or not care enough for yourself. Then look at ways you can shift this.
As caregivers, empaths, and people who want to be of service, we often give more...
Available 9 April 2019 on Amazon.
I never envisioned in my wildest imagination, a life like the one I have. Who creates a life like this on two continents? Who transforms their reality, business, and life, multiple times in only a few years? Who sticks around when the unimaginable happens right after you meet someone?
Jennifer Holik chose a new path in June 2012 when she moved out with her boys and filed for divorce. She did not expect that six months later, when she acknowledged her spiritual gifts, her entire life would transform.
Several dead guys, primarily World War I and World War II service members, had already shown up in Jennifer’s world. Many others entered her life at the exact moment they were required. Listening to their whispers, Jennifer followed the energy and created a life and business no one she knew had dared to create.
Travel through time and space, across the ocean, and through Europe, where love knows no boundaries. On this journey, Jennifer explores the...
I am back in the states for not quite a week and getting back on track with work, errands, exercise, and everything else. When I was at the gym this morning on the bike, with the intention of sprinting like I did with my trainer before I headed to Europe in January, my body said NO.
What?! No? Really?
I fell off the exercise wagon in the Netherlands when I was there. I did one day at home then the next week got the flu and spent about 5 days sleeping more or less. Did two days of walking and then my husband went back into the hospital. Although I did get one day of walking in while he was there because I went to Naarden and recorded a video there.
Otherwise, I maintained my weight, moved when we were out of the house and 90% stuck to my healthy eating and drinking habits. Now that I'm home and determined to shed some weight and further change my diet - my body is saying I have to start over. Not completely but close.
So how do we maintain consistency and balance in our lives and...
I'm a bit late posting my caregiver video this week and that's ok. A lot happened and I traveled home from the Netherlands to Chicago.
Today I am jetlagged and keep losing focus so this week's article will be short. I plan to do some journaling later on my trip, what happened with the doctors, the hospital visit, all the things I was angry/irritated/upset about and how today it seems to have all led up to some good news.
When I look at what we didn't choose which contributed to Johan ending up in the hospital again, combined with multiple conversations with doctors (some of whom we'd never spoken to before!), and the outcome that changed our lives in a major way, I can see how that all led to changing the energy of what happened today.
One thing we did before and after the hospital, was to work with an energy healer. We also started asking a lot of questions to the doctors, universe, and ourselves. My point of view is ANYTHING is possible. It seems the combination of...
This was also posted on our WWII Research & Writing Center Website and our WWII Education website.
Evaluating our business over the last decade, especially the last six years in which we have provided a tremendous amount of WWI and WWII educational materials, we have decided to change how and where we provide education for military research. Our focus has also shifted in how we help clients with research, processing what is discovered, and writing. While we still provide the highest quality military research available, your options for education now change. What does this mean for you?
On this website, the Educational Articles and Videos will remain. We will continue to add articles that help you dig deep into your family and military history. All of our research books will remain and we will continue to update them as records access changes.
Other resources have been moved or removed permanently.
This is our ...
Spring is in the air here in the Netherlands and each day the trees bud out more, the small bushes are greener or leaves are fully open. The daffodils and crocuses are blooming everywhere. I even saw a roundabout in Arnhem filled with purple crocuses. It was gorgeous!
As spring arrives, people start thinking about their summer or holiday travel. Well, most people. Caregivers and their patients may be avoiding that topic all together due to many walls that stand in their way.
I've read a lot of comments in caregiving groups about avoiding travel, or not thinking about it ,and having only a few friends on FB who do not travel so they do not have to look at photos all day long on their feed.
Does it REALLY have to be this way or is there another possibility?
When I began traveling in Europe in 2015, I knew it would be something I would do for the rest of my life. I HAD to travel. So many of my past lives were bound up in the earth here that to...
I love deep conversations. Conversations with questions that fry your brain and make you stop and go.....WHAT?! Sadly the last couple of years, I do not have enough of those kinds of conversations with real living people sitting across from me, to satisfy me. There are a lot of reasons for this - one is self-isolation I was doing. The other is working alone, with a lot of dead people who do not talk for very long, and the pressure of 'having to work or else' which causes a reaction of not going out to have fun or meet new people.
This week I had one of those deep conversations for almost three hours and it totally shifted my reality. I met with a Dutch doctor to discuss WWII research (his project) and caregiving and hospice (things I am working on and experiencing for personal and professional). Through a very open, honest, "I'm gonna ask you possibly uncomfortable questions" energy conversation he asked a question that fried me.
What do you consider success as a caregiver?...
Everyone struggles from time to time wondering who they are, especially after a major event or trauma occurs.
Caregivers may slowly, almost imperceptibly slide into an identity of only being a caregiver. They may forget who they really are.
At some point in 2018, I slipped into this identity of caregiver. That seemed to be all I was or could be or identified with. I forgot how amazing, brilliant, beautiful, inspirational, funny, and awesome I truly am.
My focus has been primarily on my husband's health and well-being the last three years, with more emphasis since early 2018. When I am in the Netherlands or we are together in Chicago - I feel primarily I am a caregiver. When I'm alone in Chicago with my boys - I'm mom or business woman. Yet I forget sometimes I'm all these things and so much more all the time. I am ever evolving!
I think from time to time, whether we are a caregiver or not, we must stop and explore who we are. We must not forget or ignore out amazing, intelligent,...
It's been a week and not all good. The question that keeps coming up is What do I want my life to be like, look like, feel like, have in it? Another question is, What am I no longer willing to accept?
The last few days have not been so easy. I did not expect we would end up in the hospital again. I did not expect I would have to make certain choices or set boundaries this trip. Yet, boundaries were set and I was consciously choosing how to take care of myself.
Even while consciously choosing to take care of myself through all this - that did not make it super easy. Being an empath and medium, even when I shield myself or set protection, I still come home from the hospital or serious doctor visits tired, or exhausted. Add stress to this and worry and not enough answers and it can be difficult to get out of bed or make seemingly simple choices.
Choosing to stay in bed and avoid the outside world is a choice. In the end today, I chose to go walk at Naarden-Vesting. I have wanted...